Sometimes we forget it is the little things that really matter. No matter how friendly you are with someone or the duration of your friendship, there are certain things that should never be taken for granted because in the long run, it is never in anyone’s best interest to do so. Here is a few pointers I have taken note myself.
First, the element of respect is not to be ignored. What is respect? It is the courteous regard for people’s feelings. It is about holding someone other than yourself in high esteem.
You know the saying, familiarity breeds contempt? Don’t subscribe to it. You may have misunderstandings, heck, everyone has those every now and then but love and respect should go hand in hand otherwise it is just not what it is meant to be and sincerely, not worth it. You cannot afford to be in a relationship and still be condescending with someone who shares the greater part of your heart, that is, if you are being honest about it.
It is quite simple, if you love with all your heart then you must respect with all your might, there is just no other way to do it right.
What do friends do when there is a disagreement? They talk things over no matter how long it takes until they come to an understanding. They do not lord it over each other and they definitely do not try to silence one another. No one’s opinion is more superior. They listen and talk until they get it right because as people who value their friendship, they are both willing to work it out.
Forgive me if I don’t buy into the “familiarity breeds contempt” concept, my belief is this: You cannot say you love or value someone-someone you know, someone whose strengths and weaknesses you are familiar with-yet you disrespect that person time and time again by doing or saying things that bring tears instead of laughter.